Focused? Is this important? Why? LISAonthego says yes. What is being focused? To give one's attention, thoughts, and concentration to another, example: a project, relationship, subject in school etc. This blog is about having a relationship. When you are with LISAonthego she is focused on you with her undivided attention.
You know it's not where they want to be or you could tell their minds are elsewhere. They are texting, on the phone, fiddling around, looking around and not focused on you. This makes LISAonthego uncomfortable and not wanting to engage again anytime soon.
LISAonthego has learned when you want her attention or is expected she stops, finishes what she is doing, or puts it aside until later and takes a few breaths then will engage with you. She has learned to do to others what she wants to be done for her and being present and focused is important for her. It’s also about you feeling worthy and having the other person feel important for those moments too. It’s the time you commit and choose to be with others and on your terms, no one is forcing you to engage. LISAonthego has learned juggling the business and being a mom regardless of the hat she is wearing; you know you are important and heard. This leaves a feeling of being loved, wanted and needed. This leaves a positive feeling for you and the other person feeling wanted, honored and respected.
When you commit yourself to a business or meet a friend or your child comes to talk about their day etc. it is important you focus on them. For LISAonthego this is engaging and feeling worthy, she gives her time and you give yours that is mutually engaging. In each moment we are asking for love or giving love and in each moment when engaging this is being fulfilled. We all want to be and feel important. So when you choose to work, be with another person, talk on the phone, be present, be focused and know you're important.
In conclusion, everyone wants to feel special. When you take the time to focus on others they know they are loved and liked. The positive experiences that come from focusing could be amazing, better relationships, business relationships, loyalty and everyone benefits etc.
Verbal attacks response. We all have those days when someone doesn’t like what you have to say. In the moment when being verbally attacked its hurtful, negative, accusing, blaming, judging and criticizing. Typically verbal attacks are yelling and screaming. Even today with texts and emails you could be verbally attacked. The words are typed in caps and being sarcastic that emphasizes the words, etc. Initial responses could be to react or be defensive.
In the moment of reacting we could retaliate and have the other person feel as we are in the moment too.
It doesn’t help to be reactive you are being just like the attacker. In the moment we also go into defensive mode and give our best shots. We want them to feel like we are too. In truth, nothing gets resolved and many hurtful things could be said.
Yelling or screaming is overbearing, pushy, and manipulative. No one deserves this behavior from another. People yell and scream thinking they will be heard or you will listen better and submit to their viewpoint. It’s actually offensive. The person yelling or screaming is triggered by others and goes into reaction mode.
LisaOnTheGo was verbally attacked and due to practice did the following: In the moment she stops listening to the other person. In the moment she realizes it doesn’t matter what she says and this will end in a no-win circumstance. She then quiets her mind, breathes and quickly analyzes what is being said. Again, to react or respond in this moment doesn’t help. When things quiet down she tells the person she wants to process and walks away. LisaOnTheGo chooses to walk away, calm down because being yelled and screamed because it goes right through her and her immediate response would be to react too.
In her opinion walking away gives her the power of loving herself. Depending on the situation it could take time to calm down. Once calm she goes within and tries to understand the other person's words, she doesn’t have to accept them but wants to understand them. LisaOnTheGo says most arguments are from not being understood. Once she has had the time to process she could now respond calmly. At this point, the other person is calmer too and more opened to converse calmly.
LisaOnTheGo then has choices, she could either approach the topic again at a later time or not.
There have been times whenLisaOnTheGo has chosen not to converse again. Her feelings are if the other person is stuck in the mud on their viewpoint, in the “I am so right mind”. Then nothing could be resolved.LisaOnTheGo will talk it out when there is the win-win situation. Example: You have a fender bender the person runs a red light, hits your car and blames you. In the moment or after nothing is going to change. They believe their story. No matter what is said or how it is said they feel the way they do. No point in trying to talk.
We always have choices. Yelling or screaming doesn’t resolve anything it is the emotion of fear. Responding not reacting works. In actuality, disagreements are resolved when both people are calm, listening to the other and understanding them. Again, not accepting the others viewpoint but understanding them.
First and utmost at all times is to love you, take of care you and be in your own power.
Have a great day! Love, Laughter & Peace, LisaOnTheGo
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LISAonthego Food vs Taste – Do you eat for the taste or to fulfill the feeling in the stomach? Is it hunger you experience or the taste you require?
LisaOnTheGo has worked at shaping up and changing her eating habits in the past year. During a conversation with a friend, why do you eat? Are you hungry? Wanting a taste or mouthful of flavor? Wanting the feeling of fullness? Filling the hunger clue from your system?LisaOnTheGo had contemplated this, wow, she has not heard of anyone talking about these subjects. She is concluding though what you eat could play a role in your weight however overall it’s about your reasons for that next bite or meal or snack.
So is it about the hunger, stomach fullness or the taste in our mouths? For LisaOnTheGo today it is about the moment of how she is feeling, does she want that comfort food? A quick meal so the hunger doesn’t kick in? Something sweet; tasty and fun? She believes the emotion you are feeling affects your choice in what you would like to eat; wanting that instant gratification. However, having the satisfying taste may not fulfill the hunger or stomach desires and vice a versa.
You don’t like your choices or one fulfills taste and not the stomach, starts choosing different foods and notices what is well balanced for you. When we eat that is fulfilling to our taste and stomachs we are in balance, grounded, better moods, feel good about ourselves and move forward with our days of love, laughter, and peace.
Have a great day! LisaOnTheGo
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Stories, LisaOnTheGo Blogger. LisaOnTheGo is so good at telling stories in her mind. You know the continuous stories with all the glories and emotions.
How about you? It happens to all of us it is the nature of the mind. Stories are stories they tell the events of an occurrence and it doesn’t resolve anything. The stories continue in our minds with; they said, I said, he said, she said and what if I did xyz. You tell the story again and again in your mind on all the angles. However, this keeps the story alive, a story has energy and the next thing you know a different story occurs with the same issue and again. Why because the now the story has power.
We aren’t even aware until months or even years later when we have had enough and take the time to sit quietly and go within. Then at this point starts the healing process start and we start taking the power back.
Take that story occurring in your life right now. Label it, identify it, describe the emotion and let it go. This is you taking your power back and understanding for you the story. Lets do this together. Take the story you could keep telling yourself and go to the charts below. Choose the chart that resonates for you for this L.I.D.E. Now label your story, now identify it, and now describe the emotion. Now you understand what this story means to you, you now have the power over the story and not the story having power over you. This works amazingly well and helps to bring peace into your life.
Have a great day! Love, Laughter & Peace, LisaOnTheGo
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Now looking back this is so true for Winnie the Pooh and the gang.
Wow, to be truly accepted for who you are, what could that look like? #LISAonthego has met people they tell stories, hide things for being in fear of other judgments. What if we allowed people to see our genuine selves? Who we are, our authentic selves: loving, kind, caring, supportive, smiley, giggly, has fun etc and in addition to what we are how; we dress, makeup, clothes, jobs etc. People to know us, understand us for who we are. LisaOnTheGo calls this being at peace and surrounded by love.
We could learn how to motivate them. Most of the gang is upbeat, energized and fun. It appears they allow Eeyore to voice his concerns, understand where he is coming from, appreciates and acknowledges him. However when the friends carefully, gently explain the benefits in what they are doing, most do conform. This is awesome for Eeyore he is understood, loved and included. Acceptance of who and what he is!
We could all be so lucky! Have a great day. LisaOnTheGo
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http://www.berkeleywellness.com/healthy-mind/mind-body/article/infographic-buying-experiences-vs-things This article is by Berkeley University of California Wellness
Today's blog is feedback on this inspiring article. Read the article first, you will find interesting, informative and detailed. Would love your feedback too.
LisaOnTheGo Blogger had a huge lesson today. She had never thought of experiences vs things and saw this article http://berkeleywellness.com/healthy-mind/mind-body/article/infographic-buying-experiences-vs-things. This gave some concrete definitions experiences vs things along with graphs.
LisaOnTheGo is digesting the first part of the picture. 50% is genetics what you are born with pertaining to your happiness, interesting. LisaOnTheGo wants to go within with this concept because of all her tools and activities she uses from Spiritualfitnessonthego has changed that the % could change too. Also, some of the other numbers don't resonate either and would love to learn more.
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Berkeley University of California Wellness
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LisaOnTheGo always wants to think the answers are out there and that everyone else has better answers or the knows the answers. The experts, professionals, friends, family, bosses etc. and in truth, it's not true.
The people in our lives play important roles too, they ultimately teach us about us. You are now with another person in a situation, comment, or event by engaging; we are learning about our beliefs, who we are and ourselves.
LisaOnTheGo is learning that by engaging helps us to understand ourselves, or have that AAHH moment where it clicks you get the understanding for you.
In truth, no one could make us think a specific way, act a specific way, be a specific way, they could try to persuade us and ultimately it is our choice. LisaOnTheGo feels this is the huge difference from childhood to adulthood, as a child we perceive our parents, authority etc. could have these choices for us and as an adult, we learn it is us that have these choices. It is for us to learn about us, what we think, what we have a thought about and we could change. Our thinking and thoughts are to be who we want to be.
However, our everyday engagements in our everyday life give us the feedback for us to contemplate, process and to move forward in our life. The engagements help to teach us and show us what we want to know or who we want to be.
Ultimately though all of the answers for ourselves are within ourselves. It's taking the pause in our lives, going within and learning what resonates for us. It's listening to our spiritual heart and following our paths for us.
Have a great day. Love, Laughter & Peace, LisaOnTheGo
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Momentum LisaOnTheGo Blogger.
Momentum is what has #LisaOnTheGo go. It's like a roller-coaster with the ups and downs. Did you ever notice when you are in the zone, focused and with all your energy that life flows easier? It's being in the moment and it just works. Then in the next moment, you are not in the zone, life appears more difficult and next you know you are at the bottom of the roller coaster.
It's not good nor bad; it just is. These ups and downs are the flow of life. The down times are the times to go within, learn, change and the up times are reaping the rewards from the work we had done. When we are coasting in life, life is good. We are at the moment of the ups and downs of life and it is working with us. Wow,LisaOnTheGo has been on this flow and has been on the bottom of the ride. She has been reflecting, going within in; what is next? And just like that, she has a thought and it is the inner push, the inner force that starts that uphill motion and the momentum starts going.
LisaOnTheGo momentum is learning to coast more in life with the little bumps and hiccups and not the huge strive of the ride going up and down. By doing the activities and tools on #www.Spiritualfitnessonthego.com and https://www.patreon.com/spiritualfitnessonthego working on it daily it keeps her coasting. Recognizing what is important and where she wants to go. She loves the professional experts on the website that reinforces her life path. The websites momentum of her daily work has her reading, re-reading, watching and listening to the expert professionals daily.
LisaOnTheGo is letting you know you make an effect on her life. She is thankful and appreciative for your time and professionalism. Come join today and impact your life today with #www.spiritualfitnessonthego.com.
Lol, love this play on the word of momentum = Moment – um. UM, are you on your way up or down the rollercoaster ride in your life?
Have a great day. Love, Laughter & Peace, LisaOnTheGo
LisaOnTheGo Blogger, I Am, Changing, Retreat, Spiritual Enlightenment, Inspiration