Changing Subjects for Avoidance
LisaOnTheGo is talking about Changing Subjects for Avoidance of confrontations, criticism or others letting you know their feelings negatively.
Have you ever been in someone’s presence that makes you uncomfortable?
For you they are critical and you could do nothing right so as avoidance you do the subject dance.
This could be a great talent with pro and cons.
The pros you could talk to anyone and anywhere.
Have great conversations and once there is a buzzword or a comment you could change the subject. When done you could learn a lot about someone from their personal lives to their professional careers. LisaOnTheGo calls this tap dancing at the pace of the responses from the person and once a buzzword or comment appears you tap to another beat.LisaOnTheGo learned to be a pro.
The downside to tap dancing and changing conversations she is in her ego mind. She would talk, in short, fragment sentences. When a buzzword would come up for her, or the subject going towards being critical and negative, she would ask questions, change the subject totally randomly. The tap dance of jumping conversations is avoiding criticism, negatively or a specific subject.
The younger generation has changed this kind of talk, they insist and command clear, precise, specific talk. Say what you mean, mean what you say and say it so that everyone understands, say it ten different ways but say it so your message is cleared and deliverable to one and all.
This works too as another diversion you could keep to the one topic and go round and round however it is the same circle. It is the talk of avoidance.
#LisaOnTheGo says this is her being in the ego mind and time to change, she is learning: When in an uncomfortable situation of feeling confronted she now she excuses herself, or she could say, oops, “excuse me” taking or holding her cell phone, I have been waiting for this text, email, message etc., walk away and look busy, play a quick game on her phone, word for friends or call someone.
LisaOnTheGo removes herself from the situation.
This gives her a timeout to breathe. If she's are at one of those events and can’t avoid the person or situation, she will take her time, she could get a drink, an appetizer etc. the conversation starts again, she could excuse herself for a napkin, talk about where you are, the food etc. or when getting a drink, appetizer etc. She could start a conversation with someone near her, start by saying, nice place? Good food? Great DJ? Love this area? And slowly the small chitchat could turn into a chat, whom do you know? How do you know them? Where are you from? Now she doesn't feel committed nor want to go back to the other person and play the avoidance subject game.
LisaOnTheGo has created how to meet new people, widen her circles and make so many more friends that like her for her.
No more subjects for avoidance. She learned to tap dance to her tune and find others that appreciate her and your conversations. Good Luck.
Love, Laughter & Peace,LisaOnTheGo
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