We have many influences in our lives. As a child LISAonthego was influenced by authority figures and would act accordingly for many years. She was not her authentic self and went along with the flow. Guess what, this doesn’t work well.
Getting to know your Authentic Self is process.
It takes time. As we gain more life experience and the rollercoaster of ups and downs is when we learn about ourselves. LISAonthego has been on many rollercoaster rides and this impacted her life. The time came when she would listen to others and be angry with herself for not doing what resonated with her.
How do you get to know you and do what resonates for you? Many of the tools, activities and talks are on www.Spiritualfitnessonthego.com. The following is some of the things LISAonthego did to become who she is today.
ARE YOU YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF?
Motto – When LISAonthego does what others wants she gets angry with herself and others are happy; When LISAonthego does what she wants she is at peace and others are angry with her. Lesson Learned: Others don’t stay angry and get over it
Life could be so busy and overwhelming that there is little time for us. The first weekend LISAonthego spent alone was an eye opener and now this has been life every other weekend. Who am I? What do I want? This was the beginning of learning about LISAonthego. She was scared, nervous and curious what does she do with this time? That first weekend:
LISAonthego watched television, learned the shows and movies she enjoyed.
Read
Food shopping and cooked for herself what she wanted
Called friends
Played the game what is my favorite? (to learn about herself) Food, clothes, friends, activities etc.
Read the A Course in Miracles lessons each night and attended group
Had a therapist that LISAonthego trusted and listened to. By the way a huge impact in her life she was awesome in teaching her about LISAonthego
Ces ultra – Helped LISAonthego in many ways and she still does the CES- Ultra every night (9 years later) http://www.elixa.com/shop/ces-ultra/ website lists all the benefits
Learning to speak the truth from her heart, not what others wanted her to say or do. Yes LISAonthego speaks from her heart, as she perceives the truth to be for her.
Being your authentic self is not easy others resist and let you know it. You know when you are speaking your truth when you feel the peace within you. To this day LISAonthego still uses and does the above list. It takes time to learn who you are: be patient and understanding. Most important above all else be your best friend and surround yourself in love you and forgive yourself for everything you didn’t do. The rest will come.
Have a great day. Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego
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LISAonthego had someone close to her past away last week unexpectedly. She received the phone call as she listened to the other person she went from numb to shock.
The ego mind reacts with the chatterbox and has a lot to say. It keeps going and going. As time goes on the thoughts continue, has us feeling guilty for not saying or doing. During this time LISAonthego said stop, cleared her thoughts, took some deep breaths and refocused.
LISAonthego then decided to go within and be proactive. What happened? Okay, the person has there own journey and choices. Yes there is always something we didn’t do or say and the what if, what if I would have called, stopped by, said something more etc. Now forgive yourself for everything you didn’t say or do this is life and the chatterbox within us. We all have the what if scenarios play in our minds and the after thoughts of what we could have done. LISAonthego had to let this go and remind herself to love herself. Every moment is perfect. Then LISAonthego decided to be proactive and try to stay clear minded.
Make a list of things that would need to be done. Who needs to be called? Where are we going? Staying? Arrangements? Etc. Keep the ego mind, chatterbox busy with chores and this helped LISAonthego to keep focused and calm.
Now for those people that will be around that don’t resonate with her. This was a task and she did her best. First LISAonthego had to understand her emotions are raw. Its like your protective shield in these times leaves you, you are standing naked and everyone could see. Isn’t this awkward and uncomfortable. This is your true, inner spirit coming out and expressing who you are in tough circumstances.
Yes, LISAonthego wasn’t always at her best and would take time for herself; she called a friend, went outside and removed herself. Its so difficult at these times feeling exposed with emotions and yet comforting having the people that matter to you be there whether that day or that week or that month.
Emotions are raw at this time and others are too. Etiquettes are nowhere to be found. People are talking material items that the person owned, feeling entitled and deserving. LISAonthego walked away, they are material things, not important. Material items could be bought in the memory of the person.
LISAonthego kept things in perspective of what is important and that is family and friends. They came together at a difficult time, to help and support each other. Let everything else go. This is where your closest family and friends come into help. The chatterbox would go and the lesson was “none of it mattered”.
LISAonthego chose a few people closest to her and would call them or they would call. We would talk the drama and stories and LISAonthego would be reminded to let it go. These people know LISAonthego well and would have her understand the drama or story and remind her to go within. LISAonthego had her peace, her peace of mind and love. Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego
"PLEASE Please don't ask me if I'm over it yet. I'll never be over it. Please don't tell me that he is in a better place. He's not here with me. Please don't say at least he's not suffering. I haven't come to terms why he had to suffer at all. Please don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up. Please don't tell me you know how I feel unless you lost your son. Please don't tell me,' At least you had him for so many years.'What year would you choose for your son to die? Please don't tell me god never gives us more than we can bear. Please just say you're sorry. Please just let me talk about my son. Please mention my son's name Please just let me cry."
- Anonymous
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LISAonthego says yes. Who you are; is utmost important.
Defining What You Are? This is how we present materially to the world: Our clothes, makeup, careers, cars, homes, vacations, education etc.
What we are is an emotion to how we feel about ourselves. It’s the presence we set to the world. If we feel awesome, we portray awesome, if we feel sad, we portray sad. This affects how we feel about ourselves. It influences our self-esteem and confidence. Therefore it's important to work daily what we are. Taking actions that make ourselves feel good about us. For example, showering, styling our hair, makeup, the clothes we wear, cleaning our homes, office desk, car, taking time off from our routines and going to the movies, beach, mountains, boating, skiing, bowling, dancing, going to a sporting; music; theater event etc.
What you are is about entertaining our ego minds that make our heart sings.
No one has an easy life; we all have drama and stories in our lives. However what you are influences your whole being. We experience the highs and lows in life. Learning in the low times, not feeling well, in treatment, feeling symptoms from an illness, losing a job, someone dying, financial issues etc. These are the times to get up and take an action of what you are so you feel your best. Take time off from life and do something that makes you feel good about you. Go shopping, meet a friend, go somewhere etc.
By taking care of what we are impacts our own lives. You are most important. You make the choices in your own life. You have your own journey and others could be there lovingly to support us on our journey. Ultimately our journeys are our own, our own choices and the path we choose for us. Others are here to teach us or we teach them and go along for the ride together.
What are you doing for you today that affects what you are?
Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego
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LISAonthego has an intention, thought or a dream and has learned this is not enough. This is where the law of action is requested. An action needs to be taken on her thought or dream for it to become fruition. Once the action is taken then the manifestation is in motion. What you think you wanted or perceived to obtain; you don’t always get as you expected. LISAonthego’s world could humorous because it’s not the way she visualized it. It usually shows differently not good or bad just different.
By taking the action though it gives momentum and helps to move life forwards. Her thoughts are now more specific and detailed versus her mind. Just because she takes an action there is no time defined to have things moving,
LISAonthegorefers to this as cultivating, planting the seed because once she takes an action things could happen in that second or in years.
The Law of Action is on its own time. Once an action has been taken LISAonthego starts seeing the evidence. For example wanting a new car, she decides its time for a new car. Lets say a new Highlander 2016 Shoreline Blue and now when she is on the road she is seeing this car more often in her view. However after taking some actions, going to dealerships etc in her mind she begins to define it more and maybe she would want the Jade color.
It’s taking the action of what we want and sometimes we follow through and sometimes the universe has its own plans.
The universe could be humorous, you happen to be at an event and there’s a raffle for a great cause. The raffle winner will win their very own Range Rover Eovque 2017 in Baltoro Ice color and guess what you win! (this is an example)
What started this momentum was your actions and the rest unfolded. It would be nice if life were this easy and simple. Sometimes it is and sometimes as we know it’s more challenging. The quiet mind is needed to visualize our wants and needs to direct us which we way to want to go.
LISAonthegorefers to this as a tree. The trunk is your mind; the branch is the action and the twigs are the results. At anytime we get to go back to the branch and do it again, more defined, more directed until our desire is reached. So today you have that thought, intent or dream, take an action towards your desire today, good luck and see what doors open.
Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego
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An event, comment or situation arises that gives us a negative feeling. How we handle the occurrence is reacting or responding.
What is Reacting?
Reacting is a negative action and could be: External: Yelling, screaming, hitting, throwing things, losing our tempers or Internal: Smoking, drinking alcohol, drugs, missing work, go shopping. It is blaming everyone else, you being so right that you know everything it’s an attitude and taking an action outside of us. It is an internal feeling and reacting an external way to handle the occurrence.
Typically with a negative reaction, we are in the ego mind. The ego mind is our thoughts, the chatterbox that talks to us daily. The chatterbox that tells us stories have us believe untruths and never gets to an answer. We think we know and see the truth without having the facts and in fact, we are judgmental with the attitude that I am so right. We take our emotions and go to the ego mind the chatterbox and externally react.
Reacting is typically a negative occurrence and causes more trouble, usually very little is resolved when we are reacting.
What is Responding?
Responding is a positive action and could be: External: Taking a few deep breaths before speaking, talking slowly and calmly, going for a walk, take a time out before addressing the occurrence, Internally: Go within, meditating, EFT tapping etc. We take our time to listen within and choose how to respond.
Typically with a response, we are calm and in our power. We listen to the occurrence and respond from our hearts. We make choices calmly and speak from our hearts. It's being in your peace.
An awesome example is Standing Rock, the police reacted to the supposed protestors and the Native Americans were responding in their peace.
Regardless whether reacting or responding what is your story? How is the story affecting you? You keep telling the story over and over with no resolution. This has the power over you.
Now LISAonthego says to L.I.D.E. https://spiritualfitnessonthego.com/lisaonthego-lide/ read this blog, then go to the chart and L.I.D.E.label the situation, comment or event, identify the emotion and describe.This gives you the power over the situation, event or comment.
We have choices when faced with a negative event, comment or situation. What are you choosing? Reaction or Responding?
Have a great day, Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego
Holiday Time and Difficult People. For LISAonthego the holidays start Thanksgiving Day to New Years Day. The days in between are now busy with shopping, cooking, cleaning, decorating and going to parties here, there, and everywhere. These times are fun, tiring and more demands.
This is the time of year that schedules, routine and structure are important to adhere as much as you can. Its fun during the holiday times, special movies and songs that play only this time of year, people and store employees are more uplifting Children are so excited for the anticipation of their holiday that it’s the time of year they could be more rambunctious. LISAonthego’s children were and she learned to lighten up for the fun of the holidays.
This is the time of year people are chattier and want to get together and more parties. Some of the people we adore and some we wish would back off. That time of year we get less sleep and our patience is tested. Then you have that, yes that, family or office party. You look forward to going, until you hear or realize who is going and know that person is difficult for you. That person is rude and in your face, talking and always right about everything or complaining about life and the unfairness. They go on about illnesses, accidents, truly personal hygiene moments, or talking about person negatively you both know and you are cornered. It’s the holidays and you are trying to be nice. Now you are dreading the party, not having fun and say to you I can’t wait until I get home, why am I here? It’s a school night, work night, I have a meeting early tomorrow etc…
How could we have fun at a party or event when we come across or anticipate a difficult person?
In truth difficult people are not difficult for everyone and when one of these people will be there its time for a game plan. These people would not be difficult for you unless you are emotionally involved. Look around you everyone could name someone difficult for them and you say that person doesn’t bother me.
What could you do so you have a good time?
When approached by a difficult person for you, say your hello’s, how are you? Happy Holidays! I am thirsty, or need a refill, be right back. Tag team with someone, either for them to engage with this person or distract and remove you, example: Excuse me I need to talk to you? No one around that is okay too. Usually, no one hears your phone but you, either ring or vibrate. Excuse me a call I need to take or I need to respond to this text message and walk away. Then go to the food table, get a small something, engage with others, take a break outdoors etc. My favorite is children, they are awesome and easy to engage, LISAonthego talks to them about them, what activities they are you in? What position do you play? Ask a cell phone, computer, or technology question. Ask what they want for the holidays and why? or What are the popular toys among your age? etc… The younger age children are even easier just start playing what they are playing. Young ones are always happy to have someone to play a toy or game.
The point being, have an everyday game plan, not just for the holidays. When you are prepared it is much easier for your plan to work and will get easier with time. It’s like that saying goes fake it till you make it. The first time you do something its awkward and the more you do it the easier it gets.
Have a great, fun Holiday Season. May all your dreams and wishes come true! Love, Laughter & Peace LISAonthego
(Anti-Bullying Song) the video is below the blog (listen to daily). A true inspiring, detailed, informative rap song
LISAonthego this is an awesome rap song by KHARI and reinforcing YOU MATTER MOST. When we don't take care of ourselves first then no one else could too. Listening to LOVE YOURSELF daily has awesome affirmations to tell us daily and remind us who we are! Who we are and who we want to be. Thank you Khari for the inspiring rap song to Love Yourself.
Emotions, Thoughts, Manifestation and Reality
Emotions and thoughts are actions. We have a choice to change one or both. In life we have total control over our emotions and thoughts. No one could take this from you! Choices are yours and yours only.
Our Emotions are the way we feel, interpret and view us. Emotions are actions of energy that respond or react. They could be feelings, a knowing of us that come from our ego mind or spiritual hearts. Emotions are not right or wrong they are what they are. The actions of our emotions become our thoughts.
Our Thoughts are talking to us, our chatterbox in our minds. The chatterbox is talking to us based on the emotions we are having. These actions are negative or positive that is in the ego mind. The chatterbox travels in a circle form with no true answers that tells us stories that we could believe. In these thoughts you have the power to change them to being positive, override the negativity, stories, dramas and taking the action to change your emotions. Going within to the spiritual heart and listen within, be still, be quiet and stop the chatterbox in your thoughts. This isn’t easy to stop our chatterbox.
How to stop, halt or quiet your chatterbox?
For positive results LISAonthego uses the tools and activities on Spiritualfitnessonthego.com. Guided Meditation, yoga, EFT tapping, listen to Inspired Speakers, a lesson in A Course of Miracles and other spiritual modalities found on website, Spiritualfitnessonthego.com You want positive results go into your spiritual heart then the answers for you are present. This is an awesome rap song Love Yourself by Khari and to use as a daily affirmation.
In your actions be clear, detailed and specific in what you want to achieve. Change the actions of your emotions and thoughts to the get the end results. Remember you don’t like the emotions you are experiencing or your thoughts then change the action until it resonates for you.
Manifestation comes from our actions of emotions to our thoughts.
Change your emotions to change your thoughts to manifest what resonates for you in your spiritual heart. Manifestation is obscure. It can’t be seen, tasted, smelled, heard or touched. It is the power of energy from our actions.
Reality is the occurrence of emotions, thoughts and manifestation.
This is the end result. Yes, it may not be the way we saw the outcome. They are many factors that come into play. Humans views are narrowed it doesn’t have the ability to see the whole picture or know everything. We only see what we see and only know what we know in that moment. We are unable to see all of the aspects this is us being human and have control by our actions in the here and now.
In LISAonthego’s experience due to her human views and unable to see the whole picture her reality most times isn’t what she has projected. Sometimes better, sometimes not and eventually with the passing of time she has an understanding of the occurrences. She has learned lessons, or taught others and eventually see gifts to herself that has resulted in the person she is today.
Have a great day! Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego
The answer is yes and no. Lets start with the yes. LISAonthego says your brain and hormones influence your thoughts of feelings. It is the ego mind. Typically males and females are stereotyped in their feelings. They have an attraction, a feeling or a thought that is gender related. Growing up boys like to roughhouse, cars, transformers, Pokémon’s etc. girls like to cook, dress-up, dolls etc. Again this is typical and being stereotyped. It is the illusion of the ego mind of what a male or female could think and feel.
Baby boomers were the last generation raised from the ego mind. Males were raised to be doctors; salesman, managers and females were raised to be teachers, nurses, secretaries etc.
Now for the no feelings that are not gender related. Today’s world are learning more to live from our hearts. The spiritual mind that is not gender related. LISAonthego is seeing when we live from our hearts the male and female thoughts and feelings are more balanced. For example: raising a child, being in the workforce, etc.
First time in history that male and female are more balanced in thoughts and feelings.
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Currently, the Presidential election includes a male and a female competing for Presidency. The Nation is not basing their vote on gender and on the issues and how the issues will be resolved. Careers are based on your interests, what you feel you would enjoy doing and the interests that resonate for you. Child rearing is being based from ones heart and what you feel is best. Video games are being played by both genders. The list goes on and on.
LISAonthego says the gender shift from the stereotype of society and ego mind was changed when technology came aboard. Technology had no gender role. VCR’s, tape decks, computers, cell phones etc. is equally used by both genders. Careers and education for technology has never been stereotyped. Amazing, LISAonthego is now realizing that technology has been a revolution in our society and the beginning of balancing the genders.
The other shift in our world is spiritual healers; self-empowerment and fitness are also non-gender. Examples are: Chiropractor, Masseuse, Acupuncture, Reiki, Meditations, and Yoga etc.
This is anew for our world to adapt to the genders being balanced, working together as equals that our feelings and thoughts are from our hearts and not the stereotypical ego mind.
Today’s world’s age is 50% under the age 35 years. This generation is being raised in non-gender roles and is much better than the older generation in technology. Also, the first time in history the age under 35 years knows more intellectually than the older generation. They are teaching the older generation about technology and non-gender roles. LISAonthego loves the younger generation in their open minds and being equal in gender roles.
Have a great day. Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego
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