Reacting Adults, Crazy? Mental Breakdown?

by | Feb 22, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

Reacting adults, crazy? Mental breakdown? LISAonthego says probably not. Why or when adults have reacted to life situations and are looked upon, as something is wrong with them?

Have you ever been so scared, frightened, fearful not understanding what is happening to you?

And your family and friends say you are not acting like you, some examples could be: you are yelling, crying, hitting, drinking, shopping, sleeping etc. These people have known you your whole life and they start saying what is wrong with you? You are crazy? You need help? Or better yet, they don’t talk to you about you because they think they know better and reach their own conclusion or they talk to everyone else about you or they shut you out with no say.

And you stand their dumbfounded. No one has asked you about you. Then you start talking but remember you are in fear mode, your tone of voice is fearful and you’re scared. The drama and stories are now making sense and time has gone by and there is so much information to tell it’s overwhelming. These people that know you start saying again you need help, your crazy, your mental and you are losing it.

This behavior typically includes others and they are calm and have been expressing their thoughts subtly to others for months and behind your back. Regardless what you say the people that you thought were on your team are now opposed. What do you do?

Reacting adults, crazy? Mental breakdown? These adults are having much drama and life situations happening in their lives and by the time they begin to understand it’s too late. Others have made their judgments and interpretations.

Ask yourself is this the persons typical behavior? Is this who they are and have been all the years you have known them? If your answer is NO then trust yourself to help, be kind, supportive and loving. Some drama stories could be: they are being bullied, alienated by family, friends or co-workers, medical illness, chronic illness, depression, anxiety, someone acting narcissistic to you, failing school, laid off etc.

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Also know they’re different scenarios depending on the person from things happening in their own life (being laid off, failing school, ill, etc.) to others inflicting the confusion in your own life (others being narcissistic to you, bullying to you, etc.).   

 

You have now hit rock bottom, tough times and now what?

A family or friend could help by:

  1. Talk to this person and listen, truly listen and understand their current life
  2. Hard to believe their drama or stories ask for the proof
  3. Get to know the story and understand it, you don’t have to accept it, just being understood and listened could help more than you know
  4. Talk to them again and again. Meet them often and talk daily.

***When we are reacting we don’t always make sense. The reacting adult is just putting things together and then too time has now gone by. So much information, drama, stories to tell and it takes your time to listen and understand. Once you understand then help this person with a plan and you are there for them.

  1. Validate the person this utmost importance we all want to know we are cared about, if you don’t mean it don’t do it, this person is already in fear mode
  2. Hug them
  3. Reassure them things are okay
  4. Help find their peace and calm down – meditation, walking etc.
  5. Eat healthy
  6. Suggest Professional help
  7. Group therapy

You have been family or friends for years and this behavior have not occurred before, trust your instincts and knowing your relationship that something is wrong. This person is in fear and reactive mode we all need help from family and friends and be there for them.

Fact, we don’t always understand the whole picture at the time things are happening. It takes time and time does heal all. Remember as a family or friend you have not walked this persons life so don’t assume you know. They’re so many more details that we don’t know or can’t know and we barely learn or see them for ourselves, time eventually shows us.

Sometimes the facts are too much for us to deal with and we need it in pieces and to slowly digest, the pieces of the puzzle eventually are done. This is life, the process and a long journey.

Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

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What Kind of Sex do you Like?

by | Feb 21, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

LISAonthego went to see 50 Shades Darker she read all three books of 50 Shades because of the hype. The judgments and interpretations of who Christian Grey is or type of personality he is from the books and movies. Also, Anastasia Steel and what is her role with Christian Grey.

What kind of sex do you like?

 

 

LISAonthego talks about who you are and what you are. LISAonthego blogs has not talked about what kind of sex you like. Sex is a very personal subject for most people and not discussed. Yet, it’s the one action in life most of us have taken more than once. Did you talk to your partner about your likes and dislikes or talk about contraceptive or talk or type of sex, toys, apparatuses etc.?

LISAonthego Statistic – sex is 100% in your own mind. Someone can’t make you like something, want it more or less or touch you the way you want to be. Sex is 100% of what you like and don’t and what your interpretation of how it could be. Most of sex is in our mind. This is our ego mind our thoughts and some is in our hearts mind feeling the love. Sure LISAonthego could say 20% is on the partners of style, approach and flirtation because we know it plays a role for us.

In 50 Shades (Of Grey and Darker movies) LISAonthego is going outside the box here, aside from their personalities (our judgments) she learned about different types of sex. From contracts to types etc.  She believes Christian and Anastasia through the books and movies are awesome teachers about sex. Physical sex has many definitions from missionary style to kinky sex etc. and one that no one teaches today. When reading the books (imaginary) or seeing the movies (visually) we get to experiences the different types of sex, toys and apparatuses. What are your boundaries and what type of sex do you like? Do you talk to your partner or keep your thoughts to yourself?

What do you want in a relationship? What type of sex do you like?

Christian Grey and Anastasia Steel negotiated their wants and needs. They walked away from the relationship when things didn’t go their way and no communication. Then came back to neutral territory at a restaurant and discussed the issues, negotiated and moved on. In fact the discussions, arguments stayed in the present, no past was brought up into the heavy discussion, as they were resolved. Do you know your partner wants and their needs; do you even know your own?

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Sex toys word cloud concept

In fact I found there story a love story in what a relationship; role model could look like. In the book/movies Christian Grey is 26 years and this is when guys start to grow up and discover whom they’re and want to be. The book/movie shows Christian Grey going through the transition. Anastasia is 21 years in the book/movie and coming into her own.

At their ages they knew or thought what they wanted in their lives and as the issues arose during their courtship it solidified their beliefs and their relationship.

What kind of sex do you like? Have a great day. Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

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Positive Mind Shift Starting Today

by | Feb 15, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

Positive Mind Shift Starting Today

Lets start a positive mind shift today. This video on What a Valuable Lesson About Mistakes. Always Rise Above by Naga Narahari Rao J is the perfect drama/story to explain why a positive mind shift starts today. 

What about the glass being half full; the positive?

When is the good ever pointed out? Most of us notice the negatives and what could change to be different and assuming changing the negative will be better. However when is the positive things we do in life pointed out or praised? On a daily basis we all do more positives than negatives. LISAonthego says daily we do 80% +\- positives in our life, following the rules, taking care of ourselves etc. Yet we don’t take the time to compliment others or ourselves.

When we are taught the glass is half empty we are being taught this is a negative. People love fixing negatives, what we did wrong and how to correct it. This is done by pointing out the negatives, being mean, cruel and criticizing etc. We rarely learn from these ways.

We could learn by our mistakes once we think about it. When the situation or circumstance arise again we could do the same thing with the same mistake or change it.  

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Your negative criticism, words, statements, comments etc. doesn’t change LISAonthego; her experience to a situation or event changes her.

 

We learn by our experience not your negative, degrading words, example: A child, you tell them again and again the stove is hot, guess what? When they touch that hot stove and have their own experience then they could decide to change.

Its time for a mind shift today and to say great job, you did that well, thanks for helping and doing your chores, look what you did well, it helped so many others, you are smart and intelligent, wow check that out. Mind shift praise in what we are doing from our experiences, bet this will get you to change things quicker in feeling good about yourself, a higher self-esteem and being positive.

Time for a mind shift and say a compliment to others and yourself in your everyday life. When we do make a mistake, what was the lesson or experience that you learned? What was the gift? What perspective changed? Did anything else change from this experience? What if we start acknowledging our own experiences and the gifts and feeling good about who we are? Its about time, starting now start acknowledging you and others for all they have done today!!! No matter how big or small, its all the same, you did awesome!!!

Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

How you Talk Impacts Us

by | Feb 8, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

How you talk Impacts us

LISAonthego says

how you talk to others impacts us by the tone of your voice, body language, facial expressions, words etc.

LISAonthego has been processing life. Why she likes someone or not, or loves someone or not or both. She realized how people talk to her influences her self-esteem even in adulthood.

When you are a child many people touch your lives in a day: parents, siblings, teachers, classmates, friends, family etc. How they talk and interact with us has an influence in our lives. The people we spend the most time with us do have a huge impact on whom we are.

Listen to the Tone of Voice

How is a parent talking to a child most of the time? Are they using a baby voice? An angry or annoyed voice? A happy voice? These voices influence who we are. We recall how we were talked to. Did you feel love and appreciated? Did you feel you were in the way? Were others spoken to differently?

How are people talking to you in your adult world? Are they appreciative and glad you are present? Do they understand you or just ignore you? Are you a pawn in their lives for their benefits?

How people speak to us and we interpret it during our lives impact us. The tone of voice matters because its sets the tone and attitude of the conversation. Also, know your intuitive feelings are true for you about how someone talks to you. Even when you confront them asking why are you angry? Upset? Sad? Do they speak the truth or lie. Go within and trust your intuition then respond accordingly.

What LISAonthego doesn’t understand why not speak the truth. It’s your opinion, a feeling that is not right or wrong. Some people feel it’s none of their business or don’t want a confrontation or actually some people just like to hear themselves talk and really don’t care what they are saying.

All conversations do influence our lives. It influences who we are, how we view the world, impacts our self-esteem, what we think of ourselves, what others think of us as we become adults we get to change it. Think about it throughout your childhood how were you spoken to: were you loved, put on pedestal, appreciated, valued or you were in the way, others annoyed, frustrated, a nuisance. In our childhood influences who we are and become.

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Then comes adulthood and its how we define it.

 

 

 

 

Yes all conversations have a tone and when people aren’t nice, we do have a choice of how to engage. LISAonthego is learning to love herself regardless how you to talk to her and influence her life. She doesn’t like your tone of voice she changes it in her thoughts to be positive. Much easier said than done. She also has the choice to ignore you, tune you out, not engage, laugh and move forwards. Our attitude also affects how we absorb what others are saying.

LISAonthego loves having choices. When someone is not talking nice to you or respecting her she has a plan so they aren’t affecting her: she could tune them out, disengage, excuse herself etc. This is much easier said than done until you do it often enough then it becomes your life. As the saying goes “fake till you make it” you will make it and its great when you do. Love you by making loving choices for you!

Love, Laughter & Peace LISAonthego

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feeling Trapped in Life?

by | Feb 3, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

Feeling Trapped in Life

What is feeling trapped in life? LISAonthego says where you feel you are in cage and can’t move. The situation has power over you and is there almost daily. Many things in life could have us feel this way for many reasons here are some examples: Marriage; You want to leave and feel trapped: Financially, Custody, Housing: Job; Financially, Your boss, Difficult to find another job: Family and Friends; Have control over some part of your life that you don’t walk from, Financially, Emotionally.

In each of these categories we could see the reasons. Sure, an easy answer is doing what is good for you and walk away. If you could leave the marriage, get a new job etc. Go for it.

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What if you are feeling trapped and its Karma?

 

 

 

Karma is a lesson we came to learn and no matter how hard you try to overcome the situation or events it keeps coming back. You feel trapped in this situation and no you can’t walk from it. It’s the most difficult part of your life. You have expressed yourself, yelled/screamed, jumped up and down, ignore it, nag and nothing works.

In truth feeling trapped has power over you, it controls you and the negative thoughts.

Attitude makes a difference in these circumstances and is our best teachers in life. You feel horrible, your heart doesn’t sing and your ego mind keeps playing the drama. The drama and the stories keep playing and the more you keep doing it, look around the more stories and dramas come.

How to handle feeling trapped and getting your power back?

  • Stop the ego mind thoughts – Pay attention when the negative thoughts start, stop and consciously change these thoughts. Fake it till you make it. This takes time, however you will see by doing this your heart will sing more.
  • Find your peace! However you find your peace, find it. This may mean journaling, exercising, talking, meditating etc.
  • Don’t allow the situation to have control and power over you. Own it and take it back https://spiritualfitnessonthego.com/lisaonthego-lide/ Part 2 https://spiritualfitnessonthego.com/l-d-e-leedy-part-2-lisaonthego/

This is taking back your power.

LISAonthego has lived this drama for many, many years this blog is from life experience and yes feeling trapped karma. Finally after all the years, it’s done! Hooray! Its not easy, its really difficult and once I surrendered to peace and took my power back, it all changed.

She will now tell you those were her best teachers and yes more than one teacher, in fact many. LISAonthego was great at drama and stories and the universe supporting it. Wow, it’s amazing how it kept coming around until FINALLY she learned to take her power and be in her peace. The universe does test LISAonthego and it’s a reminder to go within. The tools and activities on www.spiritualfitnessonthego.com helped LISAonthego find who she is.

Good Luck to you, LISAonthego

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Someone Close Dies, What to do?

by | Jan 24, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

Someone Close Dies, What to do?

Come read, watch or listen. Video is below the text.

LISAonthego had someone close to her past away last week unexpectedly. She received the phone call as she listened to the other person she went from numb to shock.

The ego mind reacts with the chatterbox and has a lot to say. It keeps going and going. As time goes on the thoughts continue, has us feeling guilty for not saying or doing. During this time LISAonthego said stop, cleared her thoughts, took some deep breaths and refocused.

LISAonthego then decided to go within and be proactive. What happened? Okay, the person has there own journey and choices. Yes there is always something we didn’t do or say and the what if, what if I would have called, stopped by, said something more etc. Now forgive yourself for everything you didn’t say or do this is life and the chatterbox within us. We all have the what if scenarios play in our minds and the after thoughts of what we could have done. LISAonthego had to let this go and remind herself to love herself. Every moment is perfect. Then LISAonthego decided to be proactive and try to stay clear minded.

Make a list of things that would need to be done. Who needs to be called? Where are we going? Staying? Arrangements? Etc. Keep the ego mind, chatterbox busy with chores and this helped LISAonthego to keep focused and calm.

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Now for those people that will be around that don’t resonate with her. This was a task and she did her best. First LISAonthego had to understand her emotions are raw. Its like your protective shield in these times leaves you, you are standing naked and everyone could see. Isn’t this awkward and uncomfortable. This is your true, inner spirit coming out and expressing who you are in tough circumstances.

Yes, LISAonthego wasn’t always at her best and would take time for herself; she called a friend, went outside and removed herself. Its so difficult at these times feeling exposed with emotions and yet comforting having the people that matter to you be there whether that day or that week or that month.

Emotions are raw at this time and others are too. Etiquettes are nowhere to be found. People are talking material items that the person owned, feeling entitled and deserving. LISAonthego walked away, they are material things, not important. Material items could be bought in the memory of the person.

LISAonthego kept things in perspective of what is important and that is family and friends. They came together at a difficult time, to help and support each other. Let everything else go. This is where your closest family and friends come into help. The chatterbox would go and the lesson was “none of it mattered”.

LISAonthego chose a few people closest to her and would call them or they would call. We would talk the drama and stories and LISAonthego would be reminded to let it go. These people know LISAonthego well and would have her understand the drama or story and remind her to go within. LISAonthego had her peace, her peace of mind and love. Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

"PLEASE Please don't ask me if I'm over it yet. I'll never be over it. Please don't tell me that he is in a better place. He's not here with me. Please don't say at least he's not suffering. I haven't come to terms why he had to suffer at all. Please don't ask me if I feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up. Please don't tell me you know how I feel unless you lost your son. Please don't tell me,' At least you had him for so many years.'What year would you choose for your son to die? Please don't tell me god never gives us more than we can bear. Please just say you're sorry. Please just let me talk about my son. Please mention my son's name Please just let me cry."

- Anonymous

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Stay Motivated by Oprah

by | Jan 16, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

Stay Motivated by Oprah

LISAonthego loves the video below. This was a great way to start the day, a reminder you have made no mistakes.

When Oprah is talking about listening to the little mind, LISAonthego interpretation she is talking about our ego. When Oprah is talking about listening within LISAonthego interpretation this is our spirit mind from our heart.

When we are overwhelmed go within and ask ourselves for the next moment. What could I do right for me in this next moment? Not to look at the whole picture because in truth, we don't know the whole picture and to take life moment by moment.

stay motivated by oprah Love, Love, Love to know to just relax, relax in your life it is on its own course that is right for you in each moment.

They are no rewards, big rainbow with the pot of gold at the end, it was a path you strolled during your life here and it is what you made it to be. It was for us to learn or teach along the way of our encounters on our own path.

THANK YOU OPRAH THIS WAS AWESOME, YOU ARE THE BEST!!!

Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

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Are Your Chakra’s in Balance?

by | Jan 13, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

Are Your Chakra's in Balance?

They are 7 main chakra energy points that professionals refer to. The chakras are the energy centers of our bodies that flows through us known as our Life force energy -- chi, ki, Kundalini or prana.

LISAonthego feels they are many more chakras that surround us in and around our bodies. These other chakras go down below our toes to up above our heads and in our aurora fields. By being focused, doing yoga, meditating helps to balance the chakras that keep our energies in balance. Balanced chakras will give us peace, harmony and feeling our best.

Are your Chakra's in Balance?

WhenLISAonthego is feeling out of sync sometimes she will see which direction her chakras are going. This is done by taking a pendulum and placing it a few inches above the chakra and seeing which way the pendulum spins. All the chakras could be spinning in the same direction, when LISAonthego is not feeling well some of her chakras will spin in the opposite direction. These are the chakras for her to focus on and have them spin the same way as the other Chakras. This is when she prioritize "me time". LISAonthego will meditates or do yoga and focus on the chakras going in the same direction. For her it doesn’t matter which direction your energy/Chakras are spinning just that they all go the same way.

The crown chakra will move the fastest and go slower as you move down towards to the root chakra.

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The picture shows where these are in our bodies and the colors they take on, here is a list:

 Base or Root Chakra 

  1. Sacral Chakra (ovaries/prostate)
  2. Solar Plexus Chakra (belly button area)
  3. Heart Chakra (heart area)
  4. Throat Chakra (throat and neck area)
  5. Brow or Third Eye Chakra (third eye)
  6. Crown Chakra (Top of head)

 

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Are you in balanced today? Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

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Does What You Are, Impact Your Life?

by | Jan 11, 2017 | Inspired Speakers

Does What You Are, Impact Your Life?

LISAonthego says yes. Who you are; is utmost important.

Defining What You Are? This is how we present materially to the world: Our clothes, makeup, careers, cars, homes, vacations, education etc.

What we are is an emotion to how we feel about ourselves. It’s the presence we set to the world. If we feel awesome, we portray awesome, if we feel sad, we portray sad. This affects how we feel about ourselves. It influences our self-esteem and confidence. Therefore it's important to work daily what we are. Taking actions that make ourselves feel good about us. For example, showering, styling our hair, makeup, the clothes we wear, cleaning our homes, office desk, car, taking time off from our routines and going to the movies, beach, mountains, boating, skiing, bowling, dancing, going to a sporting; music; theater event etc.

What you are is about entertaining our ego minds that make our heart sings.

No one has an easy life; we all have drama and stories in our lives. However what you are influences your whole being. We experience the highs and lows in life. Learning in the low times, not feeling well, in treatment, feeling symptoms from an illness, losing a job, someone dying, financial issues etc. These are the times to get up and take an action of what you are so you feel your best. Take time off from life and do something that makes you feel good about you. Go shopping, meet a friend, go somewhere etc.

By taking care of what we are impacts our own lives. You are most important. You make the choices in your own life. You have your own journey and others could be there lovingly to support us on our journey. Ultimately our journeys are our own, our own choices and the path we choose for us. Others are here to teach us or we teach them and go along for the ride together.

What are you doing for you today that affects what you are?

Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

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LISAonthego The Law of Action

by | Dec 8, 2016 | Inspired Speakers, LISAonthego

The Law of Action

LISAonthego has an intention, thought or a dream and has learned this is not enough. This is where the law of action is requested. An action needs to be taken on her thought or dream for it to become fruition. Once the action is taken then the manifestation is in motion. What you think you wanted or perceived to obtain; you don’t always get as you expected. LISAonthego’s world could humorous because it’s not the way she visualized it. It usually shows differently not good or bad just different.

By taking the action though it gives momentum and helps to move life forwards. Her thoughts are now more specific and detailed versus her mind. Just because she takes an action there is no time defined to have things moving,

TREE OF ACTION

 

 

LISAonthego refers to this as cultivating, planting the seed because once she takes an action things could happen in that second or in years.

 

 

The Law of Action is on its own time. Once an action has been taken LISAonthego starts seeing the evidence. For example wanting a new car, she decides its time for a new car. Lets say a new Highlander 2016 Shoreline Blue and now when she is on the road she is seeing this car more often in her view. However after taking some actions, going to dealerships etc in her mind she begins to define it more and maybe she would want the Jade color.

It’s taking the action of what we want and sometimes we follow through and sometimes the universe has its own plans.

The universe could be humorous, you happen to be at an event and there’s a raffle for a great cause. The raffle winner will win their very own Range Rover Eovque 2017 in Baltoro Ice color and guess what you win! (this is an example)

What started this momentum was your actions and the rest unfolded. It would be nice if life were this easy and simple. Sometimes it is and sometimes as we know it’s more challenging. The quiet mind is needed to visualize our wants and needs to direct us which we way to want to go.

LISAonthego refers to this as a tree. The trunk is your mind; the branch is the action and the twigs are the results. At anytime we get to go back to the branch and do it again, more defined, more directed until our desire is reached. So today you have that thought, intent or dream, take an action towards your desire today, good luck and see what doors open.

Love, Laughter & Peace, LISAonthego

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